Assalamu Alaykum Lovelies.
Whether you are a frequent visitor to the masjid or whether you go once a week, we could all use a refresher on etiquette in the masjid since many of us seem to have forgotten. When visiting friends or family, we all know to be on our best behaviour and to act respectfully, but why is it that we forget to do this when we visit the masjid or any spiritual gathering / event for that matter.
Here is a list of 3 reminders I would like us all to start practicing the next time we visit the Masjid or attend a spiritual event or gathering.
1. DON’T TALK DURING THE KHUTBA/ADHAN
Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said that, ““If you say to your companion when the imam is preaching on Friday, ‘Be quiet and listen,’ you have engaged in idle talk.” (Al Bukhari 892, Muslim 851). We are encouraged to keep quiet during the Friday sermon because that’s the time to listen.
Many of us forget this and start talking (albeit quietly) to our neighbours or to friends and family who have just come into the prayer hall. We are supposed to sit and listen, without engaging in conversation; even telling someone to stop talking breaks this. So if someone is talking near you, ignore them and focus on the khutbah.
Similarly, if the adhan or call to prayer goes, whether you are at the masjid or not, stop talking and just listen quietly.
If there is a spiritual conference or event where a Bayan is being held it’s so frustrating for the people who are going there to learn about our beautiful religion when we can’t hear a word the Imam or speaker is saying because Auntie Ji won’t stop talking. Please be mindful of this if you would like to talk please go outside of the room to do so.
2. TURN YOUR PHONE ON SILENT
This a big one. Many of us are so attached to our phones that putting them down for an hour becomes quite difficult, but we all need to make the effort. Turn your phone on silent so that you aren’t constantly hearing notifications of messages or calls. Not only could it distract you from dhikr or prayer, but it could (and probably does) distract the people around you.
Even with your phone on silent, put it away. Don’t check it before the khutba starts or during the khutbah. Bring your focus and attention to why you are in the masjid in the first place: to remember Allah. So forget about your phone for a few minutes and focus on your faith. It is better to bring a piece of paper and a pen to the masjid to take notes than it is to be on our phones and taking notes.
5. TREAT CHILDREN WITH RESPECT
Children often accompany their parents to the masjid, yet are often treated rudely and with disdain. There are often separate sections for mothers with very young children in some masjids, but sometimes there isn’t. So if there is a young child sitting or praying near you, treat him or her with respect, like you would any adult.
Many times people at the masjid push children and treat them as if they have no business being in the masjid. People shove them aside to make room for themselves, thus making them uncomfortable. You wouldn’t like it if someone did that to you, so why do you think it’s okay to do that to a someone who’s smaller than you?
Children under a certain age are still curious and excited about being in the masjid, but the actions of some adults could prevent them from wanting to come back if they’re treated badly. If they’re being disruptive or noisy, politely speak to them or their parents, but don’t pick them up and move them or shove past them.
Many of us think that if we go to the masjid to pray and do dhikr that our duty is done and that we are good Muslims. But we often forget that being a good Muslim is not just praying, but also how we treat others and how we act. Are our actions before and after prayer those of a good Muslim? If not, then we need to work on our etiquette in the masjid.
I know first hand how frustrating it is for the young children to be running around the prayer room and to be screaming and yelling and you’re trying to focus on the khutbah. Sincere advice, if you cannot control your child please abstain from bringing them to the Masjid for prayer times. Find a babysitter or a family member to watch them until they get a little older and they can realize and be taught that the masjid is not a place for playtime. Unfortunately some mothers bring their children to the masjid and don’t keep after them and it is us as fellow muslims who suffer.
The masjid is a place of worship and that does not mean that we get to be disrespectful to others inside of it, for that is an act of disrespect to Allah. So let’s all work on how we should act in Allah’s house so we can have better etiquette in the masjid.
Until my next post,